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rosecity
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 30, 2009 1:08 AM
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I am horrified by this awful display of intervention. You give an ex-wife free reign to drag this man's children crying and all screaming at him down the street, forcing him financially to go into treatment. He's there a short time and then dies of cancer???!!!
I'm sorry but the producers of intervention should be ashamed of yourself!!! Truly ashamed. I'm all for people getting help but they need to realize it for themselves. Here you have one of the most stable subjects of the show, he doesn't have a job, he's renting a condo from a friend, and you trash him on national television.
Shame on you A & E!!!!! Shame on You!!!!!
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Ironica
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 22, 2009 5:26 AM
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R.I.P Bret!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God Bless you & your family!!!!
I hope Bret's family is reading this as i so can relate to his death w/the death of my finacee. Need to talk??
Plkzzzz email me at:
miss_communications@hotmail.com
SUBJECT NAME: "Intervention Bret"
I will be more than happy to dicuss this w/you and help you all thru this terrible time!!!!! God Bless You all!!!!
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Edited by Ironica at 07/22/2009 2:27 AM PDT
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worked4me
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 17, 2009 3:18 PM
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admscincy- i also thought that ken seely was going to lose control of this process like he did with cristy. when he saw that episode, he probably thought to himself "i can't let that happen ever again!"
and while i love happy endings, sometimes addictions do end in death. i'm glad that a&e and bret's family didn't shy away from this cold, hard, cruel truth. this show speaks to many addicts, and if the family's and a&e weren't willing to portray this very real aspect of dealing with addiction, that would be such a shame.
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~werkedferme~
::hugs::
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ADMSCincy
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 16, 2009 12:01 AM
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I have seen every episode of Intervention and I must say that this episode hit me the hardest. My first impression is that this episode was going to head down the "Christy" route (the meth-stripper that went from zero-to-insane in 2 seconds flat) but when I saw the family structure, that opinion vanished.
I wonder what was left out in the editing process. You could feel a decade of anger and fatigue being unleashed at once. Now his son looked to be about 10-11 years old and that means he has never known a father that wasn't drunk. I also never expected his children to have the courage to look at him in the face and say their final good-byes. Unless more was left out, I think it's a safe bet that made up his mind to go to treatment.
As I recall, this is the second Intervention that ended in a death - I think the first was the tanning salon owner who literally drunk himself to death and was in the worst state of denial I have ever seen.
As crazy as it might sound, I feel Intervention might have to go down this road and show people what the real end game of dangerous addictions leads to. I say that since with word coming out that Michael Jackson died of all kinds of drugs in his system, the focus of the country can look at the danger these addictions cause.
Yes, this is only a TV show, but it is a show that really can change lives and how people see addiction as an illness, not an ongoing weakness.
I hope Bret's family has been able to stay strong and get the help they will need to move forward since the pain was so terrible with the children.
...and that last shot, with his son telling the camera something that you just know he wished he could tell his dad about the basketball game, was probably the most powerful ending the show has ever aired.
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twopups
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 15, 2009 7:06 PM
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I hope Bret's kids are reading this. They really inspired me - they're courage. I am 40 - single, no kids and struggling with alcohol. I want those kids to know that I'm now terrified of cancer of the esophagus because of their fathers story on intervention. I think of their father every day and it gives me strength (and a good kind of fear) to not drink. Thank you for sharing your story.
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aceofhearts2008
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 15, 2009 3:31 PM
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Yes we do, I agree absolutely. I firmly believe that
every addict - drugs, alcohol what ever that recovers
from this devestating disease should if they are able
to become active in some way to aide in the recovery
of other that are still out there, While I'm not a 100%
fan of AA, I recognize that they have many good points, and principles, and I think one of the ones that
always sticks in my mind is "the most important person in the room is the new comer" I would like to
see any time an addict reaches a hand out for help
there is one waiting to grab it.
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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eckolp
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 15, 2009 3:16 PM
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Yes this show had me crying and thinking about my father last night. I feel so bad for those kids and know exactly how they feel. We have to get serious about addiction and making it a serious matter of public health! Its killing way too many good people that have lost their way.
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aceofhearts2008
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 15, 2009 10:21 AM
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D.O. it means father-in-law
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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DirectorsOffice
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 9:45 PM
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I missed it, can SOMEONE repeat what "f.i.l." means please??
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worked4me
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 9:13 PM
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ace: wow, that *is* weird!! now what would be even weirder is if the ex-f.i.l. knew bret! thank you, and i hope you have a great day too! =)
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~werkedferme~
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DirectorsOffice
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 5:39 PM
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o.k., I'll go with that, you're right, about the great minds.
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aceofhearts2008
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 4:49 PM
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Werked, you know when I was watching that show
last nite, knowing it was in Tampa - the thot of your
ex-FIL ran thru my mind - That's kinda weird. But
then great minds run on the same track . have a good
day my friend.
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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worked4me
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 3:46 PM
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this is an exact mirror image of my ex-father-in-law. he now lives with his son, no job, just drinks the day away. and they both live[d] in tampa! from the way they cross their legs to wearing loafers with no socks, they're dead wringers for each other. it's awful scary to hear that bret died so quickly. my ex-f.i.l. has had the shakes for years now, and i fear that he too is not long out from death.
it was painful to watch bret's intervention, and his family fighting tooth and nail for his life. it was really painful. bret said that he was backed into a corner, and i could feel that. but it can't have been easy for his children either, to be backed into the corner of telling their father they would never see him again.
it was really hard to hear the kids' crying and screaming like they were. that was a lot of years of pent up anger and hurt. i pray that they will get the emotional support that they need to deal with what happened in the past and to deal with their father's passing.
i was pleasantly surprised with ken seeley's performance with this intervention also. at one point, i really thought he had lost control of another one [i.e. cristy's intervention] but he really pulled it out. i was kinda questioning where he was going with it and how was he going to pull it back together. i did agree with going to bret's condo to abscond the gun. in the end, everyone wore him down.
such raw emotion and gut-wrenching love.
RIP bret.
blessings and love to your family.
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~werkedferme~
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aceofhearts2008
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 12:53 PM
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Sign Lady, When I read your post it really set me on my heals your story to a point is so much like mine it
is unreal. My father died in 1962 when I was 17 also.
My father was also an alcoholic - much like you discribe
your father - he was a kind gentle man who never cursed - never acted a fool. Everyone loved him. I was grown and in recovery myself before I relized he
was an alcoholic - he certainly did not fit the profile.
I agree with you about the wife. She did what she thot she should do in regards to his drinking. Maybe
she did want more money etc. But I believe that came
out as a justification for his drinking when he was drinking. Believe me when I got drunk there was always someone or something to blame - it was never
my fault. Most people who live with alcoholics come
to the end of their rope and do what they feel is the
next rite thing. I don't think anyone can judge her.
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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gunnercarr35785
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Re: Bret - what a challenge!
Jul 14, 2009 12:39 PM
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This is my 1st post as well but last night's episode touched me in a very real way. My fiance is so much like Bret that it's scarey. We watched the show together and he did not see himself in the story. He even looks like Bret, gets the same darkness in his face when he's passed the "happy-drunk" point and turns into "evil-drunk". It's getting progressively worse, of course and he feels he doesn't need help to quit. It's like living with a bomb that you know will go off, it's just a matter of when and how much collateral damage will ensue. It's a constant job trying to manage our home life and making excuses for his behavior to those he's offended among our family and friends. I've finally decided to leave & move out of state, although he doesn't know this yet. I'm walking a tight rope trying to keep my plans from him until I can save enough money to go. Bret's outburst was the tip of the iceberg, I'm sure his wife could attest to this. It gets much, much worse. I was sorry to hear he didn't have much time to enjoy his new found sobriety and really feel for his family. I relate to loving someone so much but having to remove yourself from their lives due to the alcoholism. I got so angry watching this man let his pride stand in the way of recovery and happiness, I saw it on tv and looked at the man next to me and saw the same thing. I wanted to scream, "This is you! Do you get it yet?!" But I knew it would do no good, been down that road so many times before. Now I'm done. I'm desperate & desolate but I know that soon, my life will be ok and on the road to good, maybe even great (who knows?). I just hope others who have this problem have people in their lives stronger than me who can help them out of their alcoholism. I'm just not strong enough to do it any more.
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